Humility ~ is not self-deprecation


True humility isn’t devaluing or condemning ourselves. It’s not self-debasing humor. It has nothing to do with belittling, cheapening ourselves, or excessive modesty.  This is especially true for Christians.

Therefore there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. ~ Romans 8:1 [New American Standard Bible, NASB]

We all seem to have a sharp-tongued little voice that harps out a refrain saying we are not worthy, we are less than. This voice taunts us without our permission and against our will.

It’s the presence of this relentless, antagonistic, often lying or distorting voice that makes me believe there’s something beyond the natural. There’s a spiritual element.

As I wrote that, I realized I’m writing this for myself, as well as for others. — I’m a patient in a local medical practice that was just purchased by a larger medical group. There was confusion in the office when they gave me a follow-up appointment for test results…on a Saturday. I arrived on time for my appointment and the door was locked. The old practice had been open on Saturday, but the hours on the newly painted door said they were closed Saturday. On the drive home, that inner voice berated me. It said, I’d gotten the date wrong. It said they probably said the 18th (a Friday) but I had heard the 19th (a Saturday). What really made me anxious was the voice saying, “You’re getting older, you might be slipping.” Scary.

When I got home, I checked the appointment card they’d given me, held by a magnet to my refrigerator door. The card read: 1/19/19. Yes, a Saturday. They made the mistake. I was NOT slipping because I’m getting older. Yet the voice had tormented me.

This negative voice that seems to run on a “replay loop” is hard to shut off. Even when we later discover we were right and the voice was wrong, it’s left us exhausted. It’s the default, so it seems. That’s why I say, there’s a spiritual element to it.

The truth is, we can quiet and even shut down that harping, negative, self-deprecating voice. We retrain our minds to replace that voice with the Word of God.

 And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect. ~ Romans 12: 2 [New American Standard Bible, NASB]

Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things. ~ [NASB]

We are destroying speculations and every lofty thing raised up against the knowledge of God, and we are taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ, ~ 2 Corinthians 10:5 [NASB].

This last one, 2 Corinthians 10:5 is a key. If we destroy all negative speculations that nasty little voice raises against us and replace them with what God says, we can get the upper hand over that voice.

  • we are sons and daughters of God the Father
  • we are made in His image and likeness
  • we are highly favored by God

We have to do it. We have to do and live what the Word says.

  • be transformed by the renewing of our minds
  • think on what is good, pure, lovely, honorable
  • destroy negative speculations…they are only speculations.

6 thoughts on “Humility ~ is not self-deprecation

  1. Great, encouraging post. And speaking of getting older…isn’t this a new blog? Whether it is or not, it looks great! And thanks for the nice, big, black font. 🙂


    1. It’s the same blog. I just changed the name and slant. I moved from NYC where Crime Fictionista and Crime Fiction worked for me. Now I’m in Florida where my condominium has a pool, I’m near a beautiful river and not far from the beach. Everything’s changed.

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  2. Caryl McAdoo

    Isn’t change fun, Nike? I love it, embrace it! 🙂 I can’t say why, but twice recently, my mouth has run to my detriment . . . as to what I am . . . a “bossy leader” when speaking of NOT being a servant—I’m obviously not going for being the greatest among us! And then speaking of how I wasn’t the perfect mother . . . just off the top of my head, spilling my guts and putting myself in a bad light.

    I DO serve in certain areas . . . though I’d NEVER make a nurse, I spend hours of my time to help other writers, especially new ones. And while I may not have been perfect due to my temper, I wasn’t “Mommy Dearest” by any flight. I loved my children beyond measure while being quite the perfectionista, making their lives not so pleasant all the time.

    Our little uncontrollable member–that awful tongue–doesn’t only come against others . . .

    We NEED to believe what God says of us! At ALL times!

    Thank you for this post!


    1. Caryl, Hi, it’s so good to hear from you. Wasn’t it fun when you were a Grace Awards Finalist? Oh, my word, oh, my word. Who is the perfect mother? Mary? No, not even Jesus mother was perfect. Whew!!! That cuts me some slack. LOL

      We adopted three sisters through a special program who had the same mother and different fathers. They were a handful because they were not infants or toddlers when adopted. They already had ingrained bad habits and many issues. Let me tell you, my temper soared many times.

      I think our uncontrollable member comes against ourselves much more than we even realize. And that tape inside of our heads is much more harsh than what actually comes out loud.

      It was great hearing from you. Have a blessed 2019

      We do NEED to believe what God says about us. We need to live much more intentionally by the Word.


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